Well, yesterday was my birthday and I gotta be honest, ever since the injury I never really look forward to anything that has to do with my husband having to remember something for me. I have learned to expect nothing, so that if he totally forgets It's not a big deal and I don't get hurt. I really wasn't expecting much, but this time he decided to send me away at a friend of mine's suggestion to get my hair and makeup done for our date. I was really surprised that he was okay with this, because he usually hates us spending much money, because we are on such a tight budget. I also hardly ever do anything for myself. He comes first almost always and the kids as well. I am not a very primpy girly type so I wasn't looking forward to it, much to my friend's dismay I am sure. I was not a fan of the makeup job she did, mainly cause I think I was allergic to it, but I did love the hair cut and curly hair. It is important to remember to take care of ourselves, yet I find that most people don't understand the financial implications involved, or the fact that we are just plain exhausted so much of the time that we would rather get a nap in than anything else. I don't know about you, but I do so much paperwork along with the daily grind of making sure he is eating and taking his meds as well as taking care of the baby (he is one) that when I do get some down time, I just want to rest.
I planned a simple evening for us to celebrate my birthday. I feel so much older than I am due to the stress of the last four years, but we did actually have a fun time which was a nice change from our normal. We went to PF Chang's and enjoyed a meal and took our time eating it. It was nice that the baby was with a sitter and being taken care of and that we could just relax and enjoy some normal conversation without him getting upset or yelling. I had thought we might go to a movie, but he was really exhausted after dinner and we have plans today with some family and a few friends so I didn't want to wear him out. We decided to skip the movie and come home and get some rest so he wouldn't be exhasuted today, and I think he only slept half of the night before he had a horrible migraine (dang TBI UGH!) Here's to hoping today will be a good day for him.
I know how all that is!!! My first hair cut in about... three years maybe (?) was over a month ago, and it felt so awkward to actually have my hair taken care of, because I'm usually doing things that are of so much more importance, that when I had it done, I felt like a different person. It's amazing what a couple hours to eat in peace and some hair and makeup will do. TBI migraines SUCK!!! Not sure how long your husband's usually last but Nicholas's would last for 3 or 4 days. Nothing helped. Vicodin SOMETIMES took the edge off, but that was it. He eventually built up an immunity to it. Go figure. lol.
ReplyDeleteI am really enjoying reading your blog, too. :) Oh, and I'm sorry I misspelled C's name online last night. It bothered me for two hours after the fact. I hate misspelling cool names. haha
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And of course, stupid oversight of the night.. Happy belated birthday. :) I'm so glad he remembered. That is a big deal for PTSD/TBI guys. Major kudos to the man. :)
ReplyDeleteOk, last comment on this one. I promise. Your picture looks beautiful! I love it when hair actually holds curls. My hair likes to be straight, with a slight wave. I just try to roll with it. lol
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